Your life is a continuous journey of creating, becoming, choosing, and changing. Your identity, or your perception or concept of who you believe you are, directs and organizes your beliefs, core values, capabilities, actions and behaviors. As you move through life it is very easy to lose your sense of your own personal identity. Add to the mix that we have a to-do list that never ends, responsibilities galore, and an overwhelming sense of guilt when we take time for ourselves and it should come at no surprise that we feel disconnected from our true self and desires.
So, are you ready to rediscover your self again? Here are five tips from a personal life coach that will get you started:
1. Become Awareï»¿
Become aware of how your thoughts, words and actions impact your emotional state. If they make you feel empowered and good, you’re moving the right direction. If they make you feel bad or create negative self-talk, it is time to reconsider that particular path and dig deeper into how to shift those things to a more positive place. Awareness is the first step to self discovery. Without the awareness, you miss the potential shift.
2. Identify Outdated Rulesï»¿
We live our lives by the agreements we have made about who we are, what we’re capable of, etc. For example: “I have to work hard for money.”, or “I don’t deserve to have money because I am not good enough.” Or “I’m selfish if I take time for myself.” Many of these “rules” were simply handed to us by our parents, society, religion, etc. and are not a true reflection of who we are or what we truly believe. If any rule you have creates anxiety, worry, fear or self-doubt, it is in direct conflict with your authentic self.
3. Eliminate the Negative Self Talkï»¿
Our heads are filled with chatter. However, most of our self talk is negative. The good news is that this most of this negative self talk is not you and it is not true. Negative mind-chatter are simply lies the ego makes up (by using your outdated rules) to keep you stuck in your same familiar box. Believing the negative chatter is one of our biggest blocks in developing your true potential.
4. Take Care of Yourself Firstï»¿
The word selfish has a negative association for most people. But what if you would redefine the word selfish as a way to love yourself for who you really are. Think about it – how can you find yourself if your ‘self’ is never on the agenda? When you take care of yourself first physically, mentally and emotionally, you’ll be able to better take care of others as well.
5. Put Together a Game Planï»¿
Sometimes it feels like the present is just a repetition of the past. Albert Einstein was quoted stating that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results. I’m sure you’ve heard this before To break this cycle, it is important to create a new conscious game plan. Be your own life coach for a moment and ask yourself, “What am I going to do the next time a similar experience happens?” Without asking yourself this question, you’ll miss the opportunity to implement a new plan of action. Unless you develop a new plan of action, it will be easy to predict the future as it will be more of the same.