Marriages are no more made in heaven then anything else that involves human relationships. More than half of all marriages end up in divorce, and a good portion of the other half that do stay together are not dramatically happy, they simply stay together often for the sake of the children or else to avoid having to pay out fortunes in divorce payments and alimony; whilst secretly crying out in their heads for someone to help save my marriage. Now, whilst all of what I’ve said is true, you shouldn’t despair, or somehow feel that marriage is a bad idea, or a lost cause. Quite the contrary is true. It is simply that most people approach marriage in the wrong way. What they really need to first do is help to save their own marriages by being proactive, and I will discuss one great tactic to start doing that in this article.
Slowly a chasm can start to grow between you and your partner. It’s not dramatic. There are no fanfares or bells to sound warning you that you are in dangerous territory for your relationship, and that something needs to be done quick smart if you are going to be able to keep it ticking along nicely. No, instead of that it gets just a little worse, almost imperceptibly, until you don’t so much live in heaven with your partner, as become vaguely aware of their presence at the dinner table every night, where you share a few gripes with them about politics or what a hard time you are having at work.
So, how can you go about getting your marriage back on track? How can you pull off something that seems like nothing short of a minor miracle to couples who may have been arguing and bickering constantly. One thing that you can immediately do is to sit down with your partner and each write down a list of what initially attracted you to the other person. Now, depending on the stage of the breakdown in your relationship, your partner may or may not be willing to do this. If not then you will have to try something else, but do your best to get them to agree as this is a very heartfelt exercise to commence with reconstructing your relationship and learning how to save marriage that you may have thought was gone for good.
Going back in time in each of your minds to your earliest attraction, you will quickly realise it was a time when you probably thought that you would love your partner forever, and couldn’t even imagine circumstances in which you would ever split up, because you were that close (how times change!) You can also accelerate your progress in improving your communications in the marriage by taking a look at this 1000 questions for couples review. This takes a look at 1000 different questions that you can ask your partner that will open up the channels of communication between you.
Once you have gone through this exercise then you will most likely experience a state change. Another way to think of this is what happens to you when in the middle of a massive rainstorm where you are walking outside, the clouds part, and the sun suddenly comes out. In the split second after the clouds have gone and the rain has stopped, the difference it makes to your mood is palpable. It lifts your spirits and immediately puts you in a more productive frame of mind for your walk. The same thing happens in your relationship when you ask your partner to think back to the good times. It literally makes the clouds part and the sun come out. I am sure you will notice the difference. It won’t solve all your marriage problems overnight, but it is at least a start and sometimes beginning is half done